Dealing with my mother has always been like running the gauntlet. It's worse now that I'm older and I understand things. For example, I know how to buy and sell a house - David and I did it without their help. And, I know how to do my taxes and invest my money although when I'm too lazy to do it I end up asking her for help.
Maybe that's the problem. Because I'm trying to be a "good daughter" and include her in on our lives it gives her the idea that she can meddle. I can't help but feel guilty in not including her in things and with the past year one would think that I'd have learned my lesson. Old habits die hard and the idea of what makes a "good daughter" in my mind is hard to change.
I realize that my parents have done the very best that they can, but the one thing that they did not do so well is to instill a sense of self-confidence in any of the their children. It's true and if you talk ask my sister, she would say the exact same thing. If there is one thing that I want my boys to have is a proper amount of self-confidence and I know that it won't be an accident when they do have that.
I know that I should be thankful to have parents who are still around and who still want to be involved in my sons' lives. And, I am. I just wish that I could choose the amount of meddling. Yeah, I know - it's an unrealistic wish.
Happened to stumble across your site...agree on the mother = running the gauntlet thing, and I have not learned either from the vast amount of experience which should have taught me better. I hope your 2008 is a lot better than it sounds like your 2007 was. Go to the gym! I am having the same issues....so when I cannot make myself go outside, I have started to do Tae Bo at home....it makes me go to the gym to avoid it! =)
Posted by: Carla | January 04, 2008 at 06:36 PM