For whatever reason, I started reading (okay, listening) to He's Just Not That Into You. Reading it made me realize the crap that I put myself through during my dating years and even through the early years of being married. Yes, I know it sounds strange that I would say that it applied to the first couple years of being married but it's true.
Even though the book is about dating and how single women make excuses for the guys that they're dating, it can also apply to someone you are married to. Or, at least I think that it can be. By this I mean that you can be married to someone and they can just not be as interested in you as you are as them. It's a cold and cruel thought, but I can honestly say that not only did David ignore me, but I ignored him equally as much back. How could I know or even think this?
Because anybody who actually knew us, sometimes commented that we didn't act like a couple. If we went out to a bar or party, usually we would end up on opposite sides of the room having conversations with 2 different people. Sure we would walk into the place together and walk out together but usually we pretty much went our separate ways. I realize that this happens to other couples, but then there were times that we would each go out with friends without each other. Seriously, the times that we were together you could probably count on one hand.
It stopped being like that gradually and more-so now then ever we do things together. However, listening to that book made me realize that husbands and wives can also "not be into each other" and it's okay. Sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn't.
Well, in this case I hope it works out, Irene. You guys have a good life so I know it will. =)
Posted by: Mary Anne | August 25, 2008 at 12:03 PM