Recently one of my very good friends was asked to step down as director (a volunteer position) of a children's cancer organization. It was devastating news for her and it made me very sad for her. She's still getting over it and there has been an outpouring of support from her friends. One of the questions she is always asked is, "What can I do to make you happy?"
Her response is telling and is one that I can identify with. She tells me this: "How can I tell people how to make me happy when I don't know what will make me happy?"
She's absolutely right. Would turing back the clock make her happy? Doubtful - she's been so unhappy since she said that she would take the director's position that turning back the clock wouldn't help with her happiness. The point is that it is hard to be happy when you have no idea with will make you happy. Seriously, how do you achieve something when you have no idea how to even get there?
It's frustrating. When my friend told me this, I realized that I understood because I was in the same place. I truly WANT to be happy, but I have no idea what in the world would help me achieve that state. On paper, I have the dream life but the view is different from the inside looking out. I am thankful for what I have, but there is something missing. I'm sure that if I could identify what was missing (or if I could put a name to it) then I'd feel a helluva lot better.
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