freakin' WING THEM BACK. Right now I am going through something that is incredibly difficult and while I won't write about the details - EVER - I want to say a few things about it. Things that I've learned - shocking things (at least to me) like:
Sometimes we give people the benefit of the doubt when we really shouldn't. I'd love to come through this and still believe that people will do what is right, but that simply isn't going to happen.\
Believing that people will do the right thing is naïve not only because you will get taken, but because what is considered "right" depends on so many things. One can justify their actions a zillion different ways and the conclusion that one comes to as "right" will likely be WRONG for the other party.
Sadly, people will NOT surprise you. For example, if the woman who may one day be your mother in-law thinks you're taking advantage of her son and writes him a letter stating so and you end up being shown that letter, don't be surprised if that woman sees nothing wrong with you being the sole bread winner and supporting her son. When the tables turn - not that I EVER skated off ANYONE - do not be surprised if that woman thinks that her son is not taking advantage of you, even though - CLEARLY - he is.
Love does NOT conquer everything. You can't live off of it. It most certainly does not pay the bills and it does not make the world go 'round and it isn't all you need.
If your significant other asks for something such as love and attention, for GOD'S SAKES it won't cost you anything so just give it to her! It's something that you should give willingly otherwise you two should not be together.
I am sure that there is plenty for me to learn, but I take comfort in knowing that I have not become so jaded that I cannot be happy for other people when they tell me about the good stuff that's going on in their lives. There will be many bumps in the road - I am 100% certain of this. But I know the kind of person I want to be and even though I've become this person I am not happy to become, I know that it is temporary.
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