Why Can't You Just. . .

I have lived a life of expectations and, by enlarge, I have lived up to those expectations. What I am starting to realize is that expectations although accompanied with good intentions are not always fair. And, not all expectations put on people are good.

Case in point, someone in my life has asked steadily "why can't you just..." for example during an argument I am asked "why can't you just be nicer" or "why can't you just stop doing that.". In other words, why can't you just stop being you. Nothing was ever right or seemed to be.

What I have come to realize in that relationship is that the more I would "just be or do" whatever this person asked, the less of me there was/is. It is not the way I want to live.

Comments

[Eatmisery]

You should never have to change who you are in order to accommodate someone else's comfort, especially when it's one-sided and you're always being asked to change.

You are you and that's all there is to it. When someone repeatedly demands that you change, it can only be assumed that they are the ones who need to change.

You can only accommodate someone else's needs for so long before you start to define your own self by the other one's needs. That is when you lose who you were in the first place.

Be you. People will love you if they're meant to do so.