I have lived a life of expectations and, by enlarge, I have lived up to those expectations. What I am starting to realize is that expectations although accompanied with good intentions are not always fair. And, not all expectations put on people are good.
Case in point, someone in my life has asked steadily "why can't you just..." for example during an argument I am asked "why can't you just be nicer" or "why can't you just stop doing that.". In other words, why can't you just stop being you. Nothing was ever right or seemed to be.
What I have come to realize in that relationship is that the more I would "just be or do" whatever this person asked, the less of me there was/is. It is not the way I want to live.